By Sonya Brown
September 22, 2012 was one of the best days of my life.
On a beautiful hike in Banff, AB my boyfriend at the time asked me to spend the rest of my life with him. Throughout all of the crazy emotions one would feel dur- ing such a proposal, I remember picturing not only our wedding day, but our future family as well. Like any excited bride-to-be, I got into wedding planning mode right away, secured a wedding date/venue (a fall wedding like I had always imagined), and I guess you could say the rest is history. 2012/2013 was an exciting time in my life. I was busy planning a wedding, buying our first home together, and picturing the beautiful life that we were about to create.
I remember meeting with our real estate agent for the first time and discussing what we were looking for in our first home. Being the organized, over-planner person I am, I of course already knew exactly what we were looking for. We wanted a house in a kid friendly neighbourhood, walking distance to parks, close to a nice school, and a minimum of four bedrooms. Before we were even trying to conceive our first child, they were in our thoughts and more importantly, in our life plan. It didn’t take us long to find the perfect home to start our new life and family together.
It was never a question in our relationship when we were going to start trying for a baby. It was something we both wanted so badly, and we didn’t want to “waste” time after the wedding waiting to start our family. After a few months of trying, with no sign of a pregnancy, I decided to go and see my family doctor.
I can’t tell you how many people told me to be patient, to “stop trying” and it will happen, or these things take time, etc…but I just had a feeling something wasn’t right – I’m so thankful I trusted that feeling.
We were referred to the Regional Fertility Program in Calgary, AB (March 2014) where the fertility specialist recommended we try in vitro fertilization (IVF). I’ve heard of this procedure before, but didn’t realize what exactly this would mean for me. For those of you who are not familiar, IVF is a process by which egg cells are fertilized by sperm outside the body. The process involves hormo- nally controlling the ovulatory process, removing ova (eggs) from the woman’s ovaries and letting sperm fertilize them in a fluid culture medium. Following fertilization and cell division after a number of days in a humidity and tempera- ture controlled incubator, the embryo is then transferred into the patient’s uterus with the intent of establishing a successful pregnancy. Well let me tell you…not the most romantic way to conceive a baby. I remember after our first initial ap- pointment, sitting down with my husband Drew, and he asked me “are you sure you want to do this?” Before I could even process exactly what I was getting myself into, the answer was “YES!” Of course the answer was yes…I would do anything, literally anything to have a baby. What I didn’t know then was this was going to be the start of an adventure I most definitely was not prepared for.
I have tried to remain as private as I can be throughout this experience. It’s not easy being surrounded by friends and family who are busy building their fami- lies, introducing new, beautiful babies into the world. Being invited to countless baby showers and gender-reveal parties are not easy on the heart for a woman who wants nothing more than to have a baby of her own. I hope sharing my story can be a way to provide comfort to someone else going through a similar adventure, and most importantly provide me with peace and comfort in knowing that God has a different plan for Drew and I, and we are just patiently waiting for our time.